Gay Marriage By Michael Hinzman | 20-12-2007 http://www.requestadate.com/

Living in the world has taken such unexpected turns for the lucky members of the gay community. Once forced to live in the shadows of society. We emerged into the sun brilliantly, marching on for our piece of the American dream. As time goes by we continue to thrive as a community, united in our cause for equal rights. We are but a long line of minority people, that has been pushed under the rug. That is till we reorganized and came out louder than before. Now, we are a force to be reckoned with.

Our contributions to society as a whole are so great, they no longer can be ignored. As consumers, voters, tax payers, we have made ourselves felt through the markets at large. No longer are the powers that be, as willing to dismiss the homosexual communities as easily-as they once did. So now, in the dawn of same sex couple unions becoming legalized. We see a hope burning brightly in the yonder distance of the rainbow. It is a hope for not only achieving equal rights that we so richly deserve. However, the hope that the importance of the right will not be lost or unrealized by our community.

The sexual revolution of our people and their spirit brought many things to the world. Some of them positive and some of them not so positive. There is one thing for sure. The fact that we will have moral standards introduced along with the right to marry. It is important that the sanctuary of marriage not be taken lightly. When we have worked so hard to be given a right that should be ordained from a higher power, rather than the business of Government.

Like other groups have faced in the past, we shall as well. The powers that be will be waiting to smear what we do with the right to marry. As a sexually open community for the most part, it is a factor that we should not tread lightly into the rings of matrimony. The hope of a new generation where, dad and dad will equal a loving committed home life. Man plus man will equal loving couple. Mom and mom alike.

While it is not a necessary act that all gay people become parents. In truth just as the straight community alike, there are those that would rather not be parents. As well as the ones that are just too darn fabulous to ever think of parenthood. As parenthood is not for the easily traumatized.

It is hopeful however that the way in which our community, as a whole is viewed will change. Sexually driven men looking for their next conquest. It is an image that has all too long been the view of the homosexual males. It is of the utmost importance that the average queer think about the meaning of monogamy. That marriage does not become some sort of drama of the week for our people. Or else it will wind up hurting our people more than the good it brings.

As homosexual males given the right to marry. We have to remember with any right there is responsibility. It is the life of the married person. There are exceptable boundaries within the confine of the institution of marriage.

It is therefore that we as homosexuals fighting for equality take the measurable forethought of marriage in a most serious consideration, before we take the plunge. We are most certainly going to be under a microscope as the heterosexual world will watch to see if this will truly be an achievable life for our people.

It is of no question we owe the powers that be no explanation of our belief structure. However, to overcome the stereotypes that we have been branded with for so many years. These are mere thoughts we as a community should be asking ourselves when pondering the step of marriage, As if we do, and we will gain the right to marry. It will be evident if the court system becomes overrun with gay divorce cases. That we in general have not recognized the importance of marriage. Though the straight community struggle with the same issue. It will be because of our sexuality, verse the same reason they are in divorce court. It is the responsibility of every gay man and women alike out there to consider their part in the evolution of the queer people.

It is sad that in the political ring, the argument of gay marriage is coming down to the simple argument of facts and figures. How much money we as a community can provide to the mainstream. It shows that the union of marriage has become just as the violated traditions of cultures everywhere. The power of the almighty dollar. It is losing its merit, as they argue the right of gay marriage, and how it could improve business. While, yes an overpowering argument and fact. That we as consumers hold a trump card in our numbers. It is more important to our peoples cause that we do not see the right to marry as a Friday night activity, just because we can.

This should not however take the true focus of the right away from us. As misleading as the mainstream limelight is on this important issue. We as a people should remember the implications that such a right brings with it. Just because the powers that be, have forgotten the reason for marriage. Does not mean we as a community should as well. Marriage is a union between two people. That love and respect one another. That intend to spend their life together growing old. Building a life together. It is not merely a weekend adventure.

While some may fear that this will quench the ever bright flame of our people. It will not. There will be the marrying type. There will also be the forever bachelor. It is just more important that we as homosexuals take this act most serious. As it is a leap for our people in our cultural growth. Moral responsibility can not be laid only on the shoulders of our political champions. It is a responsibility of every queer person in our community.

Gay men and women have been forced into marriage of convenience and necessity for years. We will now enter them willingly, desirably, excitedly. We will now achieve its intended purpose. That is to join two souls in marriage. Providing loving affirmation of that love. Happily saying to the world. I love this man/woman! Also as a people. We will bring the style and flare that only we as homosexuals can bring. The ceremonies will be brilliantly laid out. Full of style and fabulous creativity. Can you see the American groom magazines now. Sitting there on the shelf displaying the modern groom proudly.

God in heaven above knowest our plight, husband to husband our love God binds,Woe to the man who would take our right, Allowest not hate too divide our minds...